Wow. We are on the last piece of our detox series and Part 4 may just be my absolute favorite thing to talk about. We're going to really dive into what some might call the hippy-dippy, witchy-witchy, woo-woo stuff that I absolutely love!
In this part, we’re not talking about our physical selves. Don't get me wrong, physical detoxification is important and you've heard me say that over and over and over again in this series. But there are some other things we need to talk about before our gentle detox is complete.
Remember, detoxing is simply removing the things - all things - that are toxic in our lives. Sometimes we need a bit of a wake up call when it comes to recognizing what things are toxic, though. So this final part is all about toxic relationships, social media, and any other media that we’ve developed an unhealthy attachment to.
#1 Clean up your relationships
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how relationships affect our daily lives. I believe that we are only as strong as the 5 relationships that take up the majority of our time - the 5 people who we spend the most time with.
So we need to talk about the toxic people in your life. Think about the people in your life who may not be good for you. Who triggers you every single moment of every single day, during every conversation or text message exchange, through every social media post? You know deep down who these people are in your life.
Now think about how much time you are spending with these people. How often are you allowing them to be in your space? It may be hard to release these people or spend less time with them, but relationships can be one of the most toxic areas of our lives.
I know you are STRONG and you are a WARRIOR. You have the power to say “no” to these toxic relationships.
This doesn't mean that you have to cut somebody out of our life completely. Sometimes, toxic relationships are with our parents, siblings, or cousins and it’s not always realistic (or even necessary) to cut out a family member. It just means that we all have to put up some boundaries around the toxic people in our lives, and focus more on spending time with the people who lift us up.
→ Action Items:
- Create a list of the people who you spend the most time with. Narrow it down to the top 5.
- Assign each one a “vibrational level.” Where are they at? If you're wanting to raise your vibration to a higher level, you can no longer be hanging around people who are vibrating at lower frequencies. These are the people who bring you down, who don't get you.
Here’s what it might look like to say “no” to some of these relationships:
- If your toxic relationship is with your mother-in-law and sharing a space with her during visits is straining, you could say, "Hey, I'll come for a visit but I have to stay in a hotel room." That is a boundary that you can put up that's really, really effective.
- If being around the whole family all at once is triggering to you, attend the Sunday family dinner only every once in a while instead of joining every single week.
- If your best friend is bringing you down, it’s OK to say “no’ the next time they call and ask you to grab a coffee or cocktail.
Toxic relationships can truly bring us down and believe me, in this journey of mine, I've had to let go of a lot of relationships. It's almost a grieving process when we let people or relationships go. I won’t go too deep into that process in this blog, but I promise we'll talk about it more.
Toxic relationships with people are some of the most challenging areas we will need to detox from.. If saying “no” is feeling a little overwhelming or you're not quite ready to demand your boundaries, skip down to #2 and we’ll talk about some of the relationships that might be a little bit easier to tackle.
#2 Clean up your Social Media
Social media can be a beautiful, beautiful blessing. It allows us to connect, or reconnect, with so many people. I've been able to rekindle connections with so many people through social media and now they are blessings in my life. But social media - especially right now - can also be very toxic. We don't want it or even have room for that toxicity in our lives.
So the question becomes: How do we stay on social media to be uplifted and inspired, and avoid it when it’s not serving us in those ways?
→ Action Items:
- Go through your social media and clean house. Every time you go on social media, take note of anybody who triggers you or doesn't bring you joy. Do the same thing with your Groups - are there any that get you all fired up and make your blood boil? Maybe you joined a friend’s Group in the past, but all it does now is trigger you and make you compare all over again.
- Unfollow/unjoin them. This doesn't mean that you have to unfriend Aunt Betty, or cousin Sally, or your sister - that might cause a little too much family drama - but you could snooze them for 30 days or unfollow them so you don't see their updates. Then you can remove yourself from the toxic Groups you’re still in, or turn off their notifications.
- Start following new accounts that inspire you. Free your social media accounts from negativity and start following positive, motivational, and inspirational accounts for daily doses of love.
- If you want to follow me, head on over to Magic with Katie. Social media is where I show up to offer you love and support, but I will never post about dividing issues because that's not what I'm here to do. I am here to create safe and sacred communities for each and every one of you. 💜
#3 Clean up your other outlets
Many of us consume too much media in general that just doesn’t bring us joy. Beyond social media platforms, we consume other media every day in the form of news outlets, podcasts, extracurricular activities, this blog, emails, websites, organizations … The list goes on and on.
You are a strong player and you have the ability to say “no.”
→ Action Items:
- Check your time. How much time are you spending listening to some of those outlets? I know for me, it can be too much sometimes. Are you waking up and going right for your phone? Are you falling asleep to the lull of TikTok videos? All of that brings a lot of negativity and a lot of toxicity into our lives. Put some reminders on your phone or your Alexa to limit the amount of time you spend on social media, watching the news, or reading emails. Go in, soak up what you need, and get out.
- If you want some tips on how to start your day peacefully without looking at your phone, go grab my 5 Sacred Rituals Guide.
- Clean up your email list. If you don't like receiving emails from certain people or businesses, if they're triggering you, if they're making you pissed off and upset, unsubscribe to that s*!%.
Remember, when I say “trigger,” I’m referring to the intense emotional or physical reactions (think panic attacks and heart palpitations) you feel when a trigger irritates you. If it makes you feel like s*!%, if it makes you feel less than the beautiful human you are, it's triggering to you and it needs to go.
I have a secret to tell you. I have unfollowed some of my favorite business colleagues, not because I don't like them as people, but simply because I get too many thoughts in my head and I end up comparing myself to them. I see all the things they're doing and think, “Why am I not doing that? I should be doing that." That’s not healthy for me because I want to come to you as my most true and authentic self. Not as a copycat.
If you’re too busy worrying about what everybody else is doing, you’re essentially just blocking your true self from shining. So don't ever, ever, ever feel bad for unfollowing or unsubscribing. You are here because you want to transform. You are here and ready to take your life to the next level. And these are some of the ways that you can do that.
Let’s review:
▪ Start to eliminate the toxic relationships in your life.
▪ Declutter your social media accounts.
▪ Unsubscribe to toxic media outlets.
I know that some of these action items are easier said than done. That’s where essential oils come in! Using oils to support your detoxification is a really fun way to amp up your efforts. Use the following oils often, carry them with you and allow yourself to begin the detox of toxic relationships and connections from your life.
TEA TREE is one of my favorite go-to’s. It’s the oil of energetic protection. Use it to help block the negative energies of the things and people surrounding you so that you can stay in higher vibrational frequencies. I wrote another
blog about this magical oil that you might want to check out, too.
PETITGRAIN is a great oil for releasing. It helps us release the baggage we’ve been carrying around. It also helps us cut ties with the negative people in our lives. It will set us free, much like Sage or Palo Santo. Read the full
blog spotlight on Petitgrain here.
You are the fire. You are a light and you are here to shine.
If we continue to surround ourselves with the things that trigger us and make us upset, we will stay at a lower vibration and we won’t be able to shine. To expand, we must broaden our knowledge and our reach in what we do.
I'm so excited to have been a part of this fun detox series with you! It's been such an honor. I can’t wait to see what the coming months bring as we step into summer. May we continue to honor women everywhere. I'm excited to continue to grow with you.
Again, reach out for extra guidance or love.